Can I pick your brain?
- 1. Can I pick up a check? (Credit: A. Owens & T. Gordon)
- 2. Can I pick your nose?
- 3. Can I pick my nose?
- 4. Can you pick up my tab at Per Se?
- 5. No. (*Here are my rates.)
I try to gently nudge him in another conversational direction by saying something mild and loving, like, “Please shut the fuck up right now.”
“Is this a good idea? What do you think? Can you help me? Do you want to publish this? What would you change?”
… you’re standing there saying, “Well? What should this be? What should I be? Who the fuck am I anyway? Do you even love me anymore?”
And sometimes, in order to take total, true creative responsibility, you have to shut people out for a while. You have to stop walking around like a giant fucking question mark. You have to stop looking for reassurance from half-interested friends, and you have to stop asking other people to help you shape your work from start to finish. Calm the fuck down and get back to work. Talking in circles is just a form of procrastination. Asking for guidance but not actually wanting guidance is a way of justifying inaction and self-pity. Letting it out is one thing; repeating yourself indefinitely is another.
“Shut up. Go finish your shit and then edit it again and again and again until it’s great. When you’re done, then we can talk some more.”
How color-coded notes make you a more efficient thinker:
Separating “branches” of your map by color stimulates the creative side of your brain, helps you visually separate and recall distinct themes of the stuff you’re working through, and encourages you to map through even boring topics that seem cut-and-dry.
“Add a dash of color … and all of a sudden the notes come alive. They are unique, they are unusual, they are memorable and they are more interesting.”
Fuck Yes! ya’ll don’t know about my stationery / note taking habits but I’m a HUGE nerd for color coding systems. I always must have 3 colored pens on me (blue & black to write out listicles and to do’s; red for updates and action items) plus multiple colored highlighters (green and yellow for immediate attention; blue and pink for fun). I cannot stand when someone interrupts my system!
and with that I decided this summer needs to be a summer of writing and emailing and promoting the stuff that makes me happy. I gotta get my happy back!
“no snarkfest 2013”
noted.
but also note if you ask me to lunch, I’d be delighted. I’m not that busy.